What is a reflection trigger? It is a significant or key date or event that gives one pause to stop and consider their life.
My most recent one was this past weekend..
J Frank Dobie, class of '74, was having their 35th class reunion and homecoming. Diana and I were thinking of attending 6 months ago, but life intervened. With me working 4 jobs, one child still in high school, 3 kids college age and in the workplace and vehicle on the fritz...it was not the best time to travel.
We tracked some of the class activities on Facebook. One thought kept recurring, do we look that old? Hope not.
Actually the things that seemed to limit us compared to others are the things that make uf feel young at heart.
I like still having a teen in the house and her having 5-10 friends over almost every weekend.
I like the constant activiy of 3/4 of our kids still living at home.
I like being boring enough to stay together as a couple for 25+ years.
It is shocking and sad to see some of the "couples most likely to stay together" now divorced after multiple marriages since high school.
There was one couple in particular that seemed to have it all together in high school. He was on the football team, popular and beat me in an election for class president in high school.
His girlfriend was petite, cute blonde a musician and on the dance team. They had been a couple FOREVER and seemd to ready to step off the graduation stage onto the top of the wedding cake.
Not anymore.
We were shocked to see her picture from the homecoming game. She looks tired, haggard and disiilustioned. Life is apparently not what she had pictured it would become.
We may have used furniture, older cars and still trying to find a second career 35 years after graduation, but we are still together. That makes us exceptional.
Remember, it's not how you start the race. It is how you finish.
